When you are a kid you see grown ups as these gods. Able to do anything they want. Go wherever they please. They can drive and have fun. They can use copious amounts of swear words and drink alcohol. All you want to do is be one of them. Then it happens and you realize there is soo much more that comes with it than those grown ups were really letting on.
Now that I am nearing my mid thirties I can tell you there is an abundance of things I didn’t anticipate would happen when I grew up.
Paying Bills. Having Bills. Finding bills after I forgot where I put them. I remember getting my first credit card when I was 18 and not understanding interest. Paying it back was such a bitch. I never used it again and have since hardly used the credit cards that I do have. Why do they make it look so fun and cool when you’re a kid? Why don’t they tell you that credit cards actually suck?
Children. Ya, we were cool kids. Maybe. But now I have my own and I don’t like sharing my sour gummy bears. Or arguing about shoes when we are about to head out the door. Or being late because all of a sudden someone has to poop when they were playing video games all morning and had plenty of time. No one mentioned the exhaustion that was going to come, not from the baby/toddler years but from the elementary/junior high years.
Menopause. Another thing no one mentions when we are kids. All you old bitties just look so cute with your make up and hair done not mentioning the night sweats, anxiety and loss of sexual appetite. How the hell are we supposed to cope when it hits us unexpectedly in our thirties when you hid it from us?
Natural talent is a myth. Growing up family tells you how talented you are but now that I’m an adult and have kids I realize no one is talented. Most of what we think of as natural talent is really just the result of having started practicing early.
Social Interactions with people other than family and close friends. As in, parents at school and/or the kids extra curricular activities. Work parties. Pretending to be interested in other peoples lives when you are barely staying above the water in your own. Trying your hardest not to let your eyes glaze over mid conversation and let your mind wander to what you could be doing if you were home. Better yet, you’re not in the corner or sitting at the table alone, not conversing at all. All of my grandparents made social interacting look so easy.
The constant chaos that is life. As a kid I watched my parents, grandparents and aunts and uncles work, party and play. But as a kid that’s all I saw. I didn’t realize what was actually going into daily life for any of those people. Even at 18 while taking care of my grandma and being with my grandparents constantly I didn’t realize how truly busy my grandpa was. Now I have a family. A house, kids, animals, a yard. All things that require my attention at some point of everyday. All things that require me to be constantly busy. Some days I wish I had my ranch back and had more to do. Some days I wish I could sit and do nothing. But it ends up balancing itself out. I just wish someone would have mentioned how busy I was going to be a little sooner in life.
Grocery shopping. Having to shop and supply food for your family and then cook it! I realize that someone did this for us as kids but I guess I just thought that someone would always be doing this for us. Now it’s meal planning. Shopping and actually making the food that I planned for. Plus cleaning up the mess. And don’t forget listening to at least one person complain about something on their plate.
Drinking. The drinking sure looked like a ton of fun as kid. I never saw the hangovers or messes that came with the drunken shenanigans. I just thought I couldn’t wait until I could do it. I remember my first hangover and thinking I was going to die! Why was this never mentioned!? Why did they make it look so awesome!? Those dirty deceivers! And the mess you make while getting so drunk that someone has to clean while super hung over. And the kids you still have to take care of! Why of Why would anyone want to do this to themselves!? Or make it look so fun!?
Now I am a grown up and get to do all of the things I thought were fun when I was a kid. Some of the things I still find fun, some not so much. It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. When we are kids we are all artists of some type. The problem is how to remain an artist as we grow up. If you’re feeling blue, try painting yourself a different color.
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