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Harvey Is A Terrible Name

Yesterday I woke up to the sound of pounding rain on our bedroom window. Only that wasn’t what I was hearing. It was, but the pounding was in my head from the drinking done on Saturday!

Being in a Hurricane is boring. How many games can one play? Or pages can one color? Or food can one eat!?

I will tell you, I have eaten more in these past few days being stuck inside my house than I do in a week. Also, that I have been casually drinking more than ever just because we have no responsibilities.

Today is the kids first day of school. Cancelled. So far, tomorrow is cancelled too. My hopes and dreams of being alone again with Travis have been postponed by Harvey. A ridiculous sounding name that has done nothing but bring devastation to families throughout Texas and Louisiana.

We aren’t as worried as a lot of others about this crazy weather. But we also aren’t as affected as others.The flooding in Houston, just 35 miles South of us, is devastating. Tornado’s touching down in Katy, also 35 miles from us. Flooding in Conroe with evacuations, just 9 miles north of us. Somehow, we are in the middle and haven’t seen that devastation in our neighborhood. We have everything we need and we have each other. What else is there? Our house isn’t flooded and most likely will not flood. The surrounding areas have been hit hard, including our town. Since we just roll with it and don’t make a huge deal about it, the kids have been great. They aren’t worried when we get another tornado warning and we all watch as the water rises in the back yard.

At this particular point, we are all just bored. We walked in the rain yesterday to check the roads in our neighborhood. Travis got Levi’s quad going. The kids have built Lego cities. We played Just Dance until the connection was not good anymore from the weather.

As of right now, we have a few more days of this terrible weather. But we are all ok and will be ok when it’s over.

It looks like more baking, game playing, movies and mess making! I guess it can’t get much better than that!

Happy Monday My Friends

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22 Things Good Moms Do

I get a couple emails or messages every week from women and moms in particular thanking me for “keeping it real” and for making them “feel normal.”

It’s one of the reasons I started this blog. Because being in the thick of parenting and having 2 kids that are 5 years apart (age or number of kids doesn’t matter at all), I realized how much unrealistic pressure we moms put on ourselves. How much comparing we do, and how, no matter what pictures we post on Facebook and Instagram, we are all starring in our own shit shows.

So I started sharing the good, the bad, the ugly and the funny in an effort to help moms understand that we are all doing the best we can and we are all fucking up, succeeding, and second guessing many decisions we make every day. It’s just how parenting works.

And at the risk of sounding like an asshole, I’m going to come right out and say it.

I am a good mom.

Sometimes I’m even a great mom! Sometimes….

I can kick some serious ass in the mom department. I can perform near impossible logistical feats like it’s my job (it is).

I manage emotions, make things work, find all lost things, solve problems, fix owies, and improvise, adapt, and overcome on a daily basis.

But being a good mom is not synonymous with being a perfect mom.

There is no such thing as perfect.

There is no such thing as normal.

And just as with our kids, all moms are different. All moms have different strengths, all moms have different weaknesses, all moms have different talents, and all moms have different interests.

Some of us have a lot of patience. Some of us have a lot of energy. Some of us have a lot of discipline. Some of us are crafty. Some of us are outdoorsy. Some of us are spontaneous. Some of us are  super organized. Some of us are good with tools. Some of us are baby whisperers. Some of us have that perfect way of relating to teenagers.

We all have some great parenting moments.

And we all have some not-so-great ones, too. They are inevitable.

If you are beating yourself up right now or if you are questioning your abilities as a parent or if you are thinking you are a bad mom, I just wanted to remind you of the following things:

Good moms let their kids eat processed food.

Good moms drop f bombs in front of their kids.

Good moms let their kids watch too much television.

Good moms let their kids play too much video games.

Good moms go days without brushing their kids hair.

Good moms let their kids go to bed without brushing their teeth.

Good moms let their kids go days without showering.

Good moms have kids who act like assholes.

Good moms have sinks full of dirty dishes.

Good moms can’t remember the last time they changed their kids’ sheets.

Good moms can’t come close to fitting into their pre-pregnancy pants.

Good moms let their kids stay up way too late.

Good moms let their kids use technology unsupervised.

Good moms lose their shit on their kids.

Good moms don’t RSVP to  birthday parties.

Good moms spend too much money on Christmas and birthday presents.

Good moms give their kids empty threats.

Good moms break every single parenting vow they made before they were actually moms.

Good moms stay up too late.

Good moms overschedule their kids.

Good moms spend too much time on their phones.

And good moms say things they regret.

Do good moms do all of these things every single day?

Not usually.

But good moms have experienced some, most, or all of those things at least once, and more than likely, multiple times.

Because good moms are also human.

Sometimes you are on it. Sometimes you are patient and organized and understanding and prepared and your kids are all behaving. Your family actually resembles the photos you post on Facebook.

And other times?

Other times your goal is simply keeping the kids alive, whether it’s by use of Ice Cream for dinner, the television as the babysitter, or a psychotic meltdown as a means of discipline.

If you find yourself in one of those “other times” right now?

Go easy on  yourself.

We’ve all been there. And there is definitely someone with you there at this exact moment.

So just keep the kids alive today.

Tomorrow is a blank slate.

And you are a great mom.

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Tuesday Tid-Bits About Me!

Today I thought it would be fun to post about some things that you may or may not know about me. That even my family and friends might not know.

I don’t eat bread. I actually try to stay away from all things carbs. Pasta, bread, tortillas, chips, crackers. But I really stay away from bread. Pretty much just for healthy reasons. It causes me to bloat like crazy and too much gluten gives me that chicken skin on my arms.

I work out and stay healthy for myself. I don’t do it to look good for my husband, although that is a plus. I do it so I feel good about myself.

Growing up, elephants were not my favorite. They were not my thing until my grandma passed. We share a birthday, I took care of her for a long time in my later teen years and we were very close. Now elephants have a different meaning for me and I love them.

I don’t like animals. I like farm animals that don’t require constant love and affection. They tend to need more work though. But dogs and cats who are always wanting you to pet them and play with them, are just not my cup of tea. Right now, my favorite animals that we have are the bees. They don’t want me to touch them at all.

Alcohol and I have a love-hate relationship. I used to get really sick because I would always over drink. I had given it up for a while and drank only on weekends before. Then there are times where I let loose completely and don’t have a care in the world for how much I’m drinking. But I always tend to be thinking or over thinking about my drinking. Do I do it? Do I not do it? Should I just stop forever?

I have an issue with my weight. Yes. The skinny girl who works out has an issue with her weight. I just never talk about it. I will do a crash diet just to do it. I will drink protein shakes and not eat because I don’t want to gain a pound. I have done it for so long that I can not consume more than 1000 calories in a day without feeling sick. You don’t have to be heavy to have an eating disorder. I don’t want to call it that, but when I talk about it (to myself) that’s what it sounds like…..

Writing is my thing. Some people like to draw, run, workout or crochet. I like to write. Write people letters. Write my blog. Write in my journal. Someday maybe I will write some crappy book that no one will read.

My hidden talent might be organization skills. Maybe that’s not a hidden talent. But I’m good at it. I like having a place for everything. My office doesn’t show that because it’s kind of a mess right now.

I have skin like duck feathers. I let things just roll off my back. That wasn’t always the case and every little thing affected me but as I got older I got wiser. Is this (whatever it is) really about me? Is it going to affect me long-term or short-term? Is it something I can control? Do I even care all that much? Do I know this person well or do they know me well? Are we family? Family loves me no matter what, so I’m good there. I don’t care what I do. Other than that, It’s not that important. I try to pass this wisdom on to people I meet.

Tell me something about you…

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Welcome To Monday!

This week is the beginning of our busy schedule.

School doesn’t start until the 28th but Levi starts swim today for the 7th grade swim team. Right smack in the middle of the day. So we can’t do anything if we want to unless it’s a few hours in the morning or in the afternoon. Which means, we won’t be doing much of anything. Let’s just face it. Unless I want to be stressed, frustrated with my kids for cramming their schedule or worried about being late for swim, it’s just not going to happen.

Luckily, before swim today, we will get to watch the Solar Eclipse. It’s only about 25-30% totality here but still something to be seen. My kids could care less and will probably be obnoxious, grumpy little shits when I make them go outside to check it out with our awesome welding glasses! I can hear the complaining now. “It’s so hot out here.” “Ugh, I hate bugs.” “How long is this going to take?” Ya, kids are awesome as they grow up….

What I should have done was wake up early for Yoga and left those little beasties behind. But no, I couldn’t sleep for the life of me last night! Sleep finally came to me around 1am and the last thing I wanted to do was be up, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, ready for Yoga. Instead I woke up leisurely, worked out at home, cleaned the pool and weed eated the front yard. Still, I should have gone to Yoga. Fortunately for me, they have different classes all day long. As long as I can get to one that doesn’t conflict with the swim schedule than I am good.

I’m probably not going to yoga today….

I started projects over the weekend and can finish them in this weird schedule we have this week. Not that it will actually happen but when I say to it myself I sound productive. After a little over 1 year of living here, I am hanging up pictures. I had some hung, the easy ones but the rest have been piled in closets since we moved in. I won’t hang them all, just because I don’t plan on this being our “forever” home. Or even, a few more years home. But for now, I need it to feel more like home.

Today will be filled with making eye doctors appointments, maybe finishing up a project or 2, hanging a picture….but just 1. I don’t want to overwhelm myself. Swim comes right after we get to see the Eclipse at its maximum here and then relaxing for the rest of the day. Who am I kidding. I will do more than all of that and most likely not any of those things at all!

Welcome To Monday!

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