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Do You Apologize To Your Kids?

Yesterday I walk in the house and Levi is holding onto his side as if in pain so I ask what is wrong. Immediately, he comes back with his story and that no one cares. (something happened at school) We begin talking. He begins crying and I end up apologizing. Apologizing because he thought he was in trouble. That’s why he started crying during his story and talking in a rude manner. Very Rude. I never want my kids to feel like they can’t tell me something. This is not the only time I ever apologize.

After I’ve had a hard day and lose my shit over something stupid. I apologize.

After they are fighting and I can’t get them to listen to me, I have to yell. I then apologize. I don’t like yelling and I tell them not to yell all the time.

When I forget to pack them something or do something I told them I would do, I apologize.

I don’t apologize with “I’m sorry if….” I apologize with “I’m sorry that…” I’m sorry if implies that it might have happened that way or maybe I hurt your feelings. I’m sorry that implies that you know what happened and you are sorry for it. There is a difference and kids know it. You don’t say “I’m sorry if I bumped into you.” You know you did. Or “I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings.” They are crying so obviously they are. There is NEVER a time for “I’m sorry if.” It is always “I’m sorry that.” ALWAYS!

We are always asking or making our kids apologize for things. Hitting their siblings. Taking a toy out of some kids hands. Saying mean things. What about when we aren’t very nice because our boss is a jerk? Or maybe we’ve been fighting with our spouse and don’t want to deal with the kids at the moment so we have a short fuse. Maybe we’ve been outside in the heat all day and it’s getting to us so frustration is running high. Do we apologize for our actions and our words? Are we teaching our kids that they have to apologize for these things but we never do!?

I for one find myself apologizing all the time. I feel better after. I’m also a talker so I make sure we talk about what happened, why it happened and why I am sorry. I am teaching my kids to do the same. It’s hard for kids to apologize. They get really, really mad! They don’t want to say sorry after they tackle their sister for throwing their X-BOX remote! But, it’s only a remote and you only have one sister. At least in our case. Teaching your kids to apologize and mean it, will take them far. They will love you for teaching them that even adults have hard moments.

So, I’m wondering…How many of you apologize to your kids? For anything???

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Things Change In Your 30’s

Yesterday I read an article about how things change when you turn 30. Yes! I read an article! I have time to read things now! Most of the article was accurate but they didn’t mention at all how it changes when you are 30 with kids. I figured I’d enlighten the world. Or at least my readers.

I was 21 when I had my first kid and didn’t even fathom turning 30. Then Travis and I got married and had another baby when I was 26. 30 still seemed a long way off. Now I’m 32 and for the most part, I love it! I have learned a lot about myself and who and how I want to be. But things have changed….

My body is harder to maintain. When I had Levi at 21 I gained 50 pounds! But after I had him it came right off. Seriously. Like stepping out of the shower and the water just started dripping off. With Delylah I gained only 30 pounds and even though I was only 26 I had to work extra hard to take that weight off. By the time I turned 30 I had to start watching what I ate. No more of whatever I want, whenever I want. It just isn’t the same. It started sticking to me. When I turned 30 is when I became a vegetarian. Was loyal for a year and half maybe and then started incorporating little bits of meat here and there. Never a full portion. I have found that meat is my enemy! Even now. For me it wasn’t just turning 30 but having kids too that have affected my body!

I can not just drink anymore. 2 glasses of wine and I wake up with a headache. That never happened before 30. I could drink whatever, whenever and however much I wanted. Granted I wasn’t a big drinker after Levi was born. When I did drink I didn’t feel sick. Now I pay for it with 2 glasses of wine! Thank you 30!

Sleep is different. I never had problems sleeping. At home or on vacations. I had kids and had to wake up with them but was always able to go right back to sleep. Now if I wake up for something you better believe I’m all of a sudden up for the next hour trying to talk myself into falling back to sleep. What is up with that? I know my grandparents didn’t sleep that much but I am not that old yet!

It matters who my friends are. I don’t mean by status. Like the rich girl or pretty girl. I mean the honest, has things in common with me, we laugh together girl. Before I was just friends with everyone. I didn’t care. But after being stepped on, put down, talked about and having kids, I realized the importance of having friends that will be there for you. Help you out and be the shoulder for you to occasionally cry on. This was a good thing about getting older!

In my 20’s I wasn’t into learning about myself. I was just living. Since turning 30 I have cared enough to read a lot about what I like and that has changed a lot over the years. In my 20’s I was afraid of change and to show people what I was about or into. (This is what I think) Turning 30 or maybe even a little before I am more into myself and what I want out of life. I started this blog when I was 30! One of my favorite things.

Kids don’t annoy me. They never really did. I was raised around all my aunts kids and we were just around a lot of kids. But turning 30 I all of sudden had even more patience! I can tune out a argument that’s pretty loud and I can sit and listen to at least 5 kids at once. Not that I will hear everything they all say but I can listen to them without blowing a fuse because they are all talking at once. Something I couldn’t do in my 20’s.

So becoming 30 seems scary when you turn 21 and seems like it’s a long time from there. But it’s really not. It’s actually quite a freeing feeling to be finding yourself. It only takes 30 years and then some. Soon will come 40 and I’m sure I’ll be learning even more about myself. Like what menopause feels like. If I will still like my kids while going through menopause. Maybe my patience will disappear. Maybe it will get even better. Who knows. But for now, I know I like my 30’s!

Embrace Life!

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Spending My Time Wisely

Last week was my first “half” week alone. No kids. No husband. Just waiting for the kids to get home from school everyday! The first day was weird. I kept feeling like I had to fill my time while trying not to over fill it. I knew that I could clean my entire house spotless and fit in some yard work too, all in one day but I also knew I have ALL school year! For the first time EVER, I have copious amounts of time to decide what gets done. I don’t have to rush, over think or try to get it all done in one day because I have kids home or will be busy tomorrow.

As I said, the first day I just felt weird. I knew that when I had this time I wanted to begin working out again. Whether I went to the gym or worked out at home this was something I wanted to do. I actually really thought I’d go to the gym but after working out at home all week last week I think I’m going to stick with it. I was extremely sore from my work outs. I sweat each day and I enjoyed them. I still might join a gym but for now I am happy working out from home. I cleaned one major thing in the house, I believe it was all the floors. That’s 4,000 sq ft of floors! That’s kind of like a work out too! The yard is in need of a lot of TLC. I began working on 1 flower bed at a time. That is going to take forever!!!!!!!!!

Day 2 alone was spent on the computer a lot! Looking up real estate courses. I didn’t sign up yet but I think I found the one I’m going to go with. I got to take a demo section of a course. It was basic. Read and answer questions. I hope I don’t get bored with it when I do sign up. I never liked school and book work was definitely not my favorite! It did seem pretty easy and I know I’d be able to pass. Not sure about finding a job. There seems to be tons of real estate agents around here but I never know until I try. I’ve got to at least give it a try. I also spent this day booking our Thanksgiving trip. We have decided to skip Thanksgiving this year. Sorry to any family who is bummed by this. Thanksgiving is one of my least favorite holidays and I am super excited to be going away for it! Day 2 was very productive. I got my workout in, cleaned up a little but a majority of the day was spent on the computer figuring things out. Without interruption!!

Day 3 was a bit rainy. I ended up doing my clean up and work out early and heading out to the store. ALONE! How nice it was to shop alone. And at Costco of all places. I actually walked down every aisle even though I hardly needed anything. I got to have ice cream for lunch without bickering or messy, fighting kids. Friday was pretty fantastic!

Today begins a new week. This will only be a half week alone. Travis comes home on Wednesday. We will get to spend our days together while the kids are at school! It will be the first time we have gotten to spend time together without kids besides having date nights!

Happy Monday My Friends

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The Rare Species At The Zoo

The kids and I ventured out yesterday to the Houston Zoo! They have always loved going to the San Diego Zoo. We were members there for at least 5 years and it never got old. They enjoy reading the signs and learning about the animals. If they are endangered. Where they are from. What they eat. If they have a special way to protect themselves. Because of this, I love taking them to places like the zoo and museums. We came across some animals that weren’t in cages….

A yelling, screaming intact male about 6-7 years old. Wild, curly hair. Not sure if it was rabid or not so we stayed away. This species was not endangered for we saw many of them!

A small, fast moving female. Running wildly away from what looked like it’s parents. It was drooling and spitting. This species was highly endangered and on the verge of extinction by the crazy look in its parents eyes!

Strange, single, middle aged, intact male. All alone. Very slow moving and extremely scary looking. Usually found near the restrooms. Highly dangerous predator sadly not threatened. Species very stable.

Crazed, wide eyed female with attached liter. Appeared to be nocturnal but was out during the day, hence the crazed look. The liter was attached at the hip making movement difficult. Could  be dangerous if out with said liter for long periods of time. Species seems to be stable and living off caffeine.

Calm, well groomed male with 2 well behaved cubs. Also well groomed. Very aware of their surroundings and other species. Species is rare. Threatened everywhere by females and males.

Very social middle aged female. We saw this species at more than one area of the zoo. Social to children and adults. Reminded me a little of the middle aged man found by the restrooms. She was social but creepy. Very predator like. Species threatened but seems to be stable.

Animals are everywhere!

Happy Sunday My Friends

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